Early in the summer, I set some ambitious goals: finish my book, do a forearm balance before my birthday.
Have I made progress toward those goals? Yes. Have I achieved those goals? Nope. Absolutely not.
Failing can feel quite real when you're working toward something specific and concrete. There's an image in mind of who you want to be or what you want to be achieving. Failure reminds you of where you are.
And that's the upshot and the challenge of failing. When you fail, there's an opportunity to take stock of present surroundings. You have the opportunity to see yourself as in the present moment--"Well, here I am, neither working toward the goal, nor fantasizing about it. I am nonetheless here having these experiences."
It's a time to remind yourself that though you have goals, you are not your goal.
You are you.
in my case, the person with the partly done book who falls out of inversions.
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